By Gordon Tam
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February 9, 2020
One young dentist asked me about work / life management, here is my thought. ————————————————- Hi Dr Gordon, I think I'd like to ask you something regarding management in life. How could you manage to balance your life among social, career and family? I mean it must be difficult for you to attend conference and workshop and do self-learning on the other hand you got your own clinic to manage and your family to take care of? ————————————————— Life is fair. Everyone of us are entitled 24 hours a day, nothing more nothing less. All of us have a different definition of Success. Success is by Design. And through Action, Success is materialised. We need Time to Take Actions. So the better we make use of our time, we have a better chance to take actions and therefore better chance to achieve our own success. For me, I don’t “Balance” my time. “Balance” has a subtle meaning of “equal distribution” We all know that in life we can never distribute our time equally for all the things we want to do. Most events are outside our circle of influence and we cannot choose the right time for them to happen. There are times we need to spend more time on certain tasks than others, for example, examination time, before deadline of our project, our kids or our spouse are sick...etc To answer the question, I will use my FRAMEWORK that I have introduced during my presentation last weekend in Kuala Lumpur. Firstly, I will write down my goals. Everything I do must have an objective. My daily activities should align with my goals, no matter how small the baby steps are, I should achieve or get closer to my goals daily or weekly. My activities should not distract/ or prevent me from achieving my goals. Here is a sample list of my goals: 1. I want to be healthy 2. I want to be a good husband and a father 3. I want to be a good dentist 4. I want to be a successful businessman 5. I want to help young dentists to achieve their success And the list goes on..... Second, I need to decide what activities I do will bring me closer to my goal. Let’s take my first goal - “I want to be healthy” as an example. Things I need to do: * Sufficient sleep time and good quality of sleep * Drink enough water daily * Balance diet, but less sugar and less carb for me * Plan my weekly exercise- running, strength, core, flexibility...etc Third, Personal Stock Check What am I currently doing ? What do I need to add / remove ? Fourth, What am I prepare to sacrifice to achieve my goal? * No more late night supper/ movie * Sleep at the designated time * No more coca-cola, ice-Milo * Set aside time for exercise Fifth, organise and plan- put the activities in to a weekly calendar as routine activities (Repeat Weekly) I believe if I put activities into my calendar, I may have a fair chance of execute them. But if the activities are not shown in my calendar, the chance of execution is extremely low. I focus on quality of my activities rather than go through motion just to get things done. After I have put in activities and allocated the hours for them, I will have an weekly overview at the beginning of the week. Do I have too much on my plate that I cannot swallow? If that is the case, I need to prioritise the activities for the same goal. For example, if I am attending a conference for the weekend (Saturday and Sunday), I will probably reduce/ remove my dental learning time for the weekdays and make more time for my family. Plan for some personal time for your hobbies... read some books, learn something fun, cooking, hiking, fishing...etc. Lastly, develop the discipline to execute what you have planned- ACTION !!! Review the whole project periodically. If you want to go fast - go alone If you want to go far - go together Get yourself a couple of friends with the same mindset (eg. Join a study club), hangout once in awhile, encourage each other along the way. My secret weapon- I have a supportive spouse whom we communicate efficiently to manage career, business, family, couple and personal time.